enise Brown is learning to let go, says Terri Roberts in Salon City.
Ever since 1994, when O.J. Simpson was first accused of murdering his wife, her sister Nicole, she has been one of his most outspoken and implacable enemies. But last year, a friend warned her that her obsession with Simpson was consuming her. “She told me, ‘Denise, I see so much anger in you. Can I go through these step-by-step things with you?’” She then suggested that Brown try to fundamentally rethink her perception of Simpson, imagining what he was like before he became infamous. “The step by step was to visualize that person who is doing you harm as a baby. You don’t know hate or evil then. Then visualize that person at the age of 2, at 3, at 5, and keeping going through the ages. And you sit there and you think, At what point does one change?” By perceiving Simpson as an evolving human being, rather than as an abstract evil, Brown has achieved a measure of peace. “In order for me to stay healthy, I needed to make that change. I was able to let go of that anger. Not forgive Simpson for what he did; the frustration is still there. But it’s not that ugly anger/hate anymore.”