Katherine Heigl used to wait for men to make the first move, says Leslie Bennetts in Vanity Fair. “I’m one of those women who always thinks it’s better to play it cool and keep them wanting more,” says the actress, who starred in Knocked Up. “I knew that dance of trying to please a man, trying to guess what they want you to be, and I got really tired of that, really confused and frustrated.” Her frustration grew when she met singer-songwriter Josh Kelley in 2005. She found him sexy and intriguing, but he didn’t call. So Heigl took the initiative. “I really threw myself at him. I broke all the rules. I said, ‘Screw it, I’ll call him.’” They dated, but Kelley, she says, “played it very cool for about five weeks. I had never dated a guy I was so unsure of. I thought maybe I liked him more than he liked me, and I didn’t like that much at all.” She and Kelley are now engaged, and Heigl still can’t quite believe she had to chase him. “He played it so cool; he was such a bastard!” She grins. “It totally worked.”