A lesson in dying

As a final gift in a wondrous career, neurologist and author Oliver Sacks showed us how to let go of life with grace and gratitude

Oliver Sacks
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There is no shortage of advice on how to live, but precious little on how to die. It should be a topic of universal concern, but is scrupulously avoided, so fearful are we of our mortality; even the dying rarely address death directly. So it was with great admiration that I read neurologist Oliver Sacks' essay six months ago about his impending death from metastatic cancer. With the attention to detail, insight, and childlike wonder that marked all of his writing, Sacks confessed his sadness at leaving the party, but noted that "my predominant feeling is one of gratitude." His had been a rich, deeply considered life. "Above all," he wrote in a beautiful coda, "I have been a sentient being, a thinking animal, on this beautiful planet, and that in itself has been an enormous privilege and adventure."

I have lived long enough now to have seen a fair number of people face their deaths. There are many ways to go: with rage that this could happen to me; in silent terror and pain, clinging to life through punishing medical treatments; and with a sad but accepting equanimity. Those who enjoy life most, strangely enough, seem to let go of it with the most grace. People like Sacks seem to intuitively understand all along that we are visitors here, passing through a great mystery. Every moment of life, including the final ones, is a gift — a chance to appreciate, grow, connect, and give back. When my time comes, I fervently hope I can exit with a semblance of Sacks' dignity and peace, and if I may be so presumptuous, I wish the same for you.

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William Falk

William Falk is editor-in-chief of The Week, and has held that role since the magazine's first issue in 2001. He has previously been a reporter, columnist, and editor at the Gannett Westchester Newspapers and at Newsday, where he was part of two reporting teams that won Pulitzer Prizes.