Best columns: Why so many college grads move home
Now that college seniors are coming home, said Debra Bruno, we parents are paying the price for years of coddling.
Debra BrunoUSA Today
Now that college seniors are coming home, said Debra Bruno, we parents are paying the price for years of coddling. Ever since our kids were in nursery school, we “helicopter parents” of the baby boom have been swooping down at every sign of trouble, helping them write that paper on Othello, using flash cards to test them on French conjugation, and pushing them to realize our dreams of success. As a result, many graduates are returning from years of high-pressure education with no dreams of their own, no real taste of independence, and “absolutely no blooming idea of what they should do next.’’ Nearly three out of five college graduates are moving back home, so Mommy and Daddy can continue to take care of them. Instead, it’s time for us to back off. “Maybe we need to let these kids face a few years of dead-end jobs,” while sharing filthy, bug-infested apartments with other confused 20-somethings. If we don’t stop jumping in and saving them from their own mistakes, they’ll never learn to stop making them. “In fact, they’ll never even get the dirty T-shirts off the floor of their bedroom.”