by Sophie Gilbert
“If you came of age around the late 1990s and early aughts, prepare to have the balloon string of sentimentality pried from your grip,” said Maya Salam in The New York Times. Those years were cruel to American women in ways that warped the culture we live with still, and Atlantic critic Sophie Gilbert appears “intent on snapping Millennials out of any instinct to idealize the decades that shaped us.” At the movies, as Gilbert points out, hits like American Pie and The Hangover made sexism a joke. In music, opinion-free pop idols like Britney Spears replaced outspoken rebels like Madonna. Degrading online porn, meanwhile, became ubiquitous, and all these strands contributed to a disdain for women that women themselves were taught to internalize. Gilbert’s “blistering, sobering” book connects the dots, revealing “a previously uncharted map.”
One of Gilbert’s principle insights proves “so clear-eyed, it’s startling,” said Maggie Lange in The Washington Post. By the aughts, she argues, looking at women was America’s most popular pastime. And troublingly, we resented the women who made us look. Gilbert shows “a particular talent” for spotting “galling” examples. In 2008, Esquire ran a photo of a topless Jessica Simpson on its cover and openly declared that the image was merely bait to draw readers to an unrelated story about the death of an Iraq War soldier. Simpson was nothing but a joke, and the best she could do was present herself as in on the gag. “What differentiates Gilbert from the recent reappraisals of the turn-of-the-21st-century misogyny is her objective.” She’s less interested in how this behavior affected celebrities like Simpson than how it harmed the rest of us, beginning with all the young women who were taught, in Gilbert’s words, “that sex was our currency, and we were a joke.”
Despite Girl on Girl’s many strengths, I finished the book “looking for a bolder claim about where the real problem lies and what can be done about it,” said Kate Womersley in The Guardian. Gilbert praises authors Rachel Cusk and Sheila Heti, among others, for raising their voices to combat misogyny, but gives such voices too little room. And because she didn’t want her book to lean heavily on anecdotal first-person writing, she “retreats from voicing her full indignation.” Still, Gilbert’s “skillful marshaling of evidence” is impressive, and her account of women’s degradation since the late ’90s “sounds a crescendo of doom toward this present moment,” when women’s rights are vanishing. Don’t misread Gilbert’s wry title as suggesting that women themselves are the problem. “It’s the patriarchy, stupid.” |