Have you 'liked' a model's beach photos on Instagram, exchanged direct messages with an ex, or had semi-flirty chats with a colleague? Then be careful, you might be "micro-cheating". These "seemingly small betrayals" are being classified under a relationship "buzzword", said Self. But what is micro-cheating and is all this behaviour so sinister?
'Small breaches of trust' Micro-cheating, a term popularised by Australian psychologist Mel Schilling, refers to "small breaches of trust" in a relationship that "don't pass the threshold into a physical affair", said Psychology Today. For instance, someone "may leave their wedding ring at home when they go out alone" or dress up to impress an office crush.
But the advance of technology and the work-from-home era has created more opportunities for micro-cheating, such as "liking a co-worker's photo on social media" or indulging in "furtive" online chats without a partner's knowledge, said The Associated Press.
Jealous couples are "monitoring and investigating" each other's "digital habits" for "signs of disloyalty", said The Washington Post, and because almost "everything we do online leaves a trail", those "breadcrumbs" can "become a sign of infidelity – real or perceived".
'There isn't a right and wrong in relationships' Possibly, but these behaviours "may fall into an ethical grey area", said Psychology Today, making them "difficult to identify, confront, and discuss".
Micro-cheating can be unintentional, Molly Burrets, a clinical psychologist specialising in couples therapy, told CBS News. Someone who feels "dissatisfied or unfulfilled" in a relationship may be subconsciously "trying to meet those needs" without crossing a line into physical infidelity.
"There isn't a right and wrong in relationships," Abby Medcalf, a psychologist and host of the "Relationships Made Easy" podcast, told The Associated Press. When it comes to defining cheating, the most important factor is that your partner "doesn't like it, or doesn't know about it, or wouldn't like it if they knew about it".
Burrets said that micro-cheating can be avoided by honest conversations early in a relationship about each partner's definition of fidelity. "A lot of times we go in expecting that we both have the same concept of what exclusivity means," she said, "and we often don't."
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