Meghan Markle has revealed how she's making memories for her children by creating them each a "time capsule". She has set up "secret" email accounts for Archie, five, and Lilibet, three, and, "almost every night", she mails them a message.
Her messages could include a photo from that day, a little anecdote or a note of something funny that child said. "I used to have scrapbooks and photo albums but we're past that generation now," the Duchess of Sussex explained on "The Jamie Kern Lima Show" podcast. Archie and Lilibet don't have access to their accounts, so won't see the emails until "maybe when they're 16 or 18", and can look back on them "and go, 'Oh my gosh, she has loved us so much!'"
'Small, everyday moments' The Duchess' nightly ritual is "particularly meaningful", said Daniella Gray in Newsweek, because, unlike so much parental memory-making, "it doesn't focus exclusively on milestones or achievements". Instead, Markle is collecting a treasure trove of the "small, everyday moments which can typically get lost in fast-paced family life".
Her emails will become a "breadcrumb trail of identity" for her children, Dorcy Porter, founder of the Conscious Co-Parenting Institute, told Newsweek's Gray. They will be "a reminder that they were always loved, always witnessed. That's not just emotional; it's foundational."
'Unrealistic parenting standards' The social-media "cult of making memories" is one of the "more nauseating phrases to emerge from social media", said Claire Cohen in Vogue. We all do our best to preserve memories for our kids but there's a "huge difference between Pritt Sticking a few pictures into a notebook" and having them wake up on their 16th birthday to "somewhere north of 4,000 emails to read".
This could be the best parenting idea Meghan's ever had, said Charlotte Cripps in The Independent. But there's a danger it could set "unrealistic parenting standards" for others. One "photo dump in one email once a year" is more attainable for the average parent. "At the end of the day, it's a wonderful gift" to your children, "and it's never too late". |