Forget the seven-year itch. Heterosexual couples are now staying together for longer, with the average divorce occurring after 13 years of marriage, according to the latest Office for National Statistics data.
Staying power Last year’s 13-year average duration is the longest for marriages since records began back in 1963. New highs for how long same-sex civil partnerships lasted before divorce or dissolution were also recorded in 2025.
It’s “not solely a British phenomenon”, said The Guardian. Although divorce statistics are collected differently in different countries, the Pew Research Center in the US found that the median length of marriages ending in divorce there rose from 10 years in 2008 to 12 years in 2023.
As of 2023, the average age of first-time marriage for opposite-sex couples in the UK had reached a record high of 34.8 for men and 33 for women. This could help explain why marriages are lasting longer, Laura Mortimer, a partner at the law firm BP Collins, told The Times. “Those that do marry are much more settled and sure of their relationship.”
‘Nuclear option’ Divorce is now “more accessible than it ever has been”, Lisa Pepper, a divorce lawyer at Osbornes Law, told The Guardian, yet “couples are staying together”. There are “less romantic” explanations for this: rising mortgage, rent and childcare costs mean many can’t afford to separate. Instead, they are trying things like couples therapy or mediation before going for the “nuclear option” of divorce. As a result, some couples are stuck in unhappy or hostile living environments so that they can share their financial assets and split household bills.
Another “fundamental change” that might help to explain why marriages are lasting for longer is the rise in cohabitation, Brienna Perelli-Harris, a professor of demography at Southampton University, told the newspaper. More than 90% of couples live together before tying the knot, giving them a chance to try out a shared life before committing to matrimony. “Those who stay together and eventually marry are, my research shows, the couples who are happiest.”
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