This is the #1 thing that holds most people back from success

…it's not really a search for talent. It's a search for attitude. There are a few jobs where straight up skills are all we ask for. Perhaps in the first violinist in a string quartet. But in fact, even there, what actually separates winners from losers isn't talent, it's attitude. [Seth Godin]

First, they need to like you. That's the first component. The things you do that make them like you less make it less likely that you are going to get what you want… [Harvard]

In an experimental study of the performance appraisals people received, those who were able to create a favorable impression received higher ratings than did people who actually performed better but did not do as good a job in managing the impressions they made on others. [Power: Why Some People Have It and Others Don't]

…when MIT researchers spent an entire year following 2,600 employees, observing their social ties, even using mathematical formulas to analyze the size and scope of their address books and buddy lists, they found that the more socially connected the IBM employees were, the better they performed. They could even quantify the difference: On average, every email contact was worth an added $948 in revenue. [The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work]

The better we feel about these workplace relationships, the more effective we will be. For example, a study of over 350 employees in 60 business units at a financial services company found that the greatest predictor of a team's achievement was how the members felt about one another. [The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work]

A recently published BYU business study finds that employees who are "true believers" in the mission of their organization are more likely to increase in status and influence than non-believers…

The study found those who exhibit a strong belief in a brand's mission or cause become more influential in important company circles, while those simply focused on punching the clock become more peripheral players — regardless of formal company position or overall performance. [BYU]

The closer you bring yourself into the appearance of alignment through your daily actions and choices, the more favorable the company's opinions of you will be, and the more secure your job will be. How will you know? Those who are seen as being openly in alignment are the ones who gain recognition, favor, and promotions — even if they don't have the best skills. Maybe I'd better hit you with that one again: Those are the ones who get ahead regardless of their skills or performance.

Highly skilled employees, with seemingly great value to their organizations, are let go every day because they are perceived to be a potential risk and cannot be trusted. Conversely, employees are being promoted who don't have the best skills and may even have to be taught how to do the job, at great expense and time, because they appear to be in alignment and the company feels they can be trusted over others. [Corporate Confidential: 50 Secrets Your Company Doesn't Want You to Know—and What to Do About Them]