My stepson is a porn star. Help!

Starshine Roshell weighs in with advice on this and other quandaries

Starshine Roshell
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Dear Starshine,

I recently learned that my 24-year-old stepson "Alex," whom I helped raise, is an actor in the porn industry. He's been doing this for several years and there are numerous videos of him online engaging in sexual acts. When I found out I was sad and appalled. I called Alex and he said it was true. I haven't spoken to him since; I just can't bring myself to. The problem is I have two other sons, "Kurt," 13, and "Kyle," 14. Alex, who lives across the country, invited them to spend a week with him at his house. The boys have been out to see him several times in the past few years, but that was before I knew about his job. Kurt and Kyle claim they had no idea about Alex's work, but I don't know if that's true. They say it doesn't matter to them and they still want to visit their brother, whom they adore. Not only do I not want them visiting him, I don't think they should have any contact with him at all. My husband, the father of all three boys, thinks I'm making too big a deal of the situation. Am I right to be disturbed by all this? What's the best course of action?

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Starshine Roshell

Starshine Roshell is a veteran journalist and award-winning columnist whose work has appeared in The Hollywood Reporter, New York Post and Westways magazine. She is the author of Keep Your Skirt On, Wife on the Edge and Broad Assumptions.