Don’t demonstrate. If your child is struggling with an assignment, resist doing it for him. Instead, have him explain, step by step, how he thinks he might work through it.
Avoid saying “wrong.” This one word halts a child’s thought process and “puts you in control.” Instead say, “I see what you’re thinking, but let’s try it like this.”
Don’t praise intelligence. If you tell your child how smart she is when she gets something correct, you’ll “set her up to think she’s no longer smart the next time she fails.” Better to applaud how much she’s learning, and to help her see how new skills can be used in the real world.
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Forget modesty. If you struggled with a subject back in your youth, keep it to yourself. Sharing such information can reduce your child’s self-confidence and faith in your ability to help.
Source: Men’s Health
