11 lessons every good parent should teach their kid

If there is basic human respect, so many other good character traits follow suit. Respect for authority also shows obedience. Respect for others covers kindness. Respect for oneself shows self-control and self-worth. Things like teasing and bullying happen in the absence of respect. Back talk, disobedience, laziness, same thing, they just don't exist where respect is found. Cleanliness, self-control, follow-through, and determination also are the product of respect. —Mr. & Mrs. W, boarding school dorm parents

I think manners are the most important thing for parents to teach their children: Manners raise a child's social IQ and flags them as a reasonable, thoughtful person. The simple act of consideration that the person you are speaking to is (1) a person, and (2) not aware of all your thoughts and needs automatically. —Rebecca Mayer, youth services librarian

I've noticed that children who play games with their family and have a healthy experience with winning and losing at home seem to be better sports in general at school. Most of my students come to school and just have no idea how to lose or even win gracefully. It's probably okay to let your child win every now and then, but please never do it just because they are being a sore loser. I think it would be better to just stop playing until they are a better sport. —Lyndsey Z., kindergarten teacher

I wish people would tell their children that showing up on time and doing all the work is 90 percent of life. A bonus would be if they told their children to take advantage of office hours. I could really help kids if they would come ask me questions." —Maren Bradley Anderson, associate professor, Western Oregon University

Self-respect and respect for others are the foundation on which quality people are built. I'd rather coach a respectful kid 100 times more than a d-----bag natural athlete. —Mignon H, coach

As a camp counselor, I wish parents taught tolerance of everything: Religions, sexual orientation, personalities, race, etc. We would have many less angry people in the world if they were more tolerant and open. —Joy Nelson, camp counselor

I think if an individual cannot be honest, he or she will steal from others, lie (to get money or get out of trouble), cheat, give themselves permission to shoplift or take from others, develop an attitude of entitlement, etc. As a young adult or teenager, the behavior begins as stealing a candy bar, skipping school, lying to parents, curfew violations, attitude and drama, or continued negative peer associations. As life continues, their circumstances get worse. I think of it like weaving a web. —youth parole officer of 16 years, wishing to remain anonymous

Take advantage of every opportunity you get, whether it's doing your homework, talking to a person, watching a demonstration, or listening to someone share their wisdom. You never know how much you can learn. —Kathy Conley, high school teacher

I wish parents would be more proactive in partnering with the church and school to help their child. Children are so different and unique, and so it's our job as pastors, teachers, and administrators in schools to help them be successful while creating plans that fit the child's needs and God's design for them. —‎Toakase Vunileva, principal and youth pastor, Mile High Adventist Academy

I see a lot of young people getting into trouble because they come to the realization that they can do pretty much anything they want while avoiding the consequences, because their parents are always there to defend them and bail them out regardless of how egregious the situation. Failure to learn responsibility at an early age is the catalyst to poor or sometimes tragic results, whether it be teen pregnancy, addiction, the inability to secure and hold a job, poor academic achievement, or criminal conduct. —Rick J., criminal sergeant, Pendleton Police Department

I wish parents would teach their kids to not attack puppets. I guess it is kind of a respect thing that runs deeper than how puppets are treated, but it manifests when kids come up and tear off a puppet's arm. Or punch them...in the middle of a show. —Benjamin W, children's pastor, puppeteer