Bruce Feiler's book — The Secrets of Happy Families: Improve Your Mornings, Rethink Family Dinner, Fight Smarter, Go Out and Play, and Much More — explores the hidden secrets of improving your family life.
Despite all of the recent research about individual happiness, a lot of life happiness comes from spending time with people you care about. In fact, it is the number one predictor of life satisfaction.
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Kids wish their parents were less tired and stressed.
Jeff Sutherland, implemented an agile approach at home.
That sounds like inversion and it turns out that acknowledging that things can go wrong and introducing a system to address those things works the same in business and at home. Hello family meetings.
The centerpiece of the program is a weekly review session built on the principle of "inspect and adapt."
This is a mechanism for communication.
Sutherland went on to say "The purpose of the meeting is not to talk about each of you as individuals. It's to focus on how you're functioning as a family."
As well as talking about the things you want to focus on you need to talk about rewards and consequences too. Within limits, you need to let the kids decide.
Empowering children works.
There is a right way to have family dinner: What you talk about matters as much as what you put in your mouth.
"When you start to look at the research, which is staggering," Laurie David, the Oscar-winning producer of An Inconvenient Truth and the author of The Family Dinner, says "you realize all the things you worry about as a parent can be improved just by sitting down to regular dinners."
It's not about the dinner, it's about the people. Use meals to share family history.
More ideas? Try the 10-50-1 formula.
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"Peter Pronovost's miracle invention was not a drug, a device, or a procedure. It wasn't revolutionary at all. It's one of the oldest, most mundane things on earth. It's a checklist."
By adding checklists with preposterously basic items such as "wash hands with soap" and empowering anyone in the room to speak up when something was wrong, hospitals saves lives, money, and time.
The Secrets of Happy Families: Improve Your Mornings, Rethink Family Dinner, Fight Smarter, Go Out and Play, and Much More will remind you about family agility, the power of talking, and how to have fun.
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