Vivacious aristocrat who gave her name to a nightclub
A few months after founding the Clermont Club, his notorious gambling club in Berkeley Square, in 1962, John Aspinall leased its basement to his friend Mark Birley, an advertising executive. Birley converted the space into a nightclub, and named it Annabel’s, after his wife. It became, and remains, one of London’s most celebrated society hotspots. Yet for Lady Annabel Goldsmith, who died last week aged 91, her association with the club was just one chapter in a long life that was gilded and full of fun, but also punctuated by tragedy.
Born in London in 1934, she was the daughter of Robin Vane-Tempest-Stewart, Viscount Castlereagh, later the eighth Marquess of Londonderry, and Romaine Combe. She spent her childhood between three family piles: Mount Stewart in Northern Ireland, Wynyard Hall in Co Durham, and Londonderry House, on Park Lane. Her mother was attentive to her children, said The Times – until blisters appeared around her mouth. She died of cancer when Annabel was 17; after that, her father descended into alcoholism. She described herself as a shy, awkward girl, but when she came out in 1952 her grandmother – a famous society hostess – threw her a grand ball that was attended by Elizabeth II. The point was to find her a suitable husband, but by then Annabel had already met Mark Birley, a lanky Old Etonian, and they married in 1954. Soon, they had three children, Rupert, Robin and India Jane. She loved Birley, but he was busy and serially unfaithful; they drifted apart – and in 1964 she started an affair with the married businessman James Goldsmith. Though it was intense, her children remained her priority, and she was always with them in the holidays. Over Easter in 1970, she made the fateful decision to take them to Aspinall’s private zoo where Robin, then 12, was horribly injured by a tiger. She felt intense guilt that she’d let him into the enclosure; he always insisted that no one was to blame.
She was still married to Birley when she gave birth to Jemima, her first child with Goldsmith, in 1974. Their son Zach was born a year later. They finally married in 1978, and had a second son, Ben, in 1980; but by then Goldsmith – who was rarely at home – had fallen in love with another woman, and had children with her. Asked how she bore it, Annabel told friends that “what goes around comes around”; she had, after all, been his mistress for years before they married, which had hurt his then-wife. The worst blow, however, came in 1986, when her son Rupert went missing, presumed drowned, in West Africa. Goldsmith died in 1997. Birley, to whom she had remained close, died in 2007. In 2009, she said that people often assumed she was haughty, “when really I’m not”, and that the things that made her happy were quite simple: “Give me dogs, give me children, give me books.”