Girls on Film: Forget When Harry Met Sally. Men and women can be friends.

Twenty-five years after its release, the beloved rom-com's guiding principle remains annoyingly pervasive in Hollywood

When Harry met Sally 25 years ago this week, America fell in love with Nora Ephron. Through her legendary rom-com triumvirate — When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, and You've Got Mail — Ephron set the blueprint for modern cinematic romance. Hollywood has since followed her formula — essentially boy meets girl, they spar, then fall in love — so loyally that even They Came Together, which purported to satirize the entire genre, is almost exclusively a satire of her work.

For years, the Ephron formula was one of Hollywood's biggest moneymakers, until superheroes and 3D took the spotlight. Now the rom-com has been relegated to the sidelines, prompting many to argue that the genre is essentially dead. And yet, one rom-com trope remains naggingly pervasive: the key argument on which all of When Harry Met Sally is based. In the words of Billy Crystal's Harry Burns: "Men and women can't be friends."

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Monika Bartyzel

Monika Bartyzel is a freelance writer and creator of Girls on Film, a weekly look at femme-centric film news and concerns, now appearing at TheWeek.com. Her work has been published on sites including The Atlantic, Movies.com, Moviefone, Collider, and the now-defunct Cinematical, where she was a lead writer and assignment editor.