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What can your iPhone teach you about happiness?
Happiness apps are nearly useless. But they can still offer an important lesson.
A while ago I posted about using a happiness boosting iPhone app created by researcher and author of The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky.
For the past couple months I've been using another app, In Flow.
What I liked about this one was that it replicates the method that big happiness researchers like Dan Gilbert have used in their studies. The app prompts you at random times and asks you to fill in:
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Problem is, it barely worked for me at all. It was nearly useless.
But that led me to an even bigger lesson.
What I realized was something that surprised me — but that makes total sense when I look at the research:
Where I was and what I was doing didn't make much of a difference.
Don't get me wrong: I'm not happy all the time and I'm not miserable all the time. But location and activity had only a loose connection to how I felt.
I was surprisingly able to be miserable at parties and downright cheerful while in the clutches of apocalyptic traffic. Huh?
Then I remembered something that happiness researchers and great philosophers both agree on:
It's not where you're, it's where your head is.
Your happiness is determined by your thoughts, and if you're not focused on your surroundings and what you're doing, they don't matter.
As Matthew Killingsworth and Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, explained in the Harvard Gazette: "how often our minds leave the present and where they tend to go is a better predictor of our happiness than the activities in which we are engaged."
Or, as Buddha said:
We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.
So lately I've been a little less focused on changing where I'm at and more focused on where my thoughts are at.
I've stopped having arguments in my head. I ask, "Is this really going to improve the situation? Is it making me happier?" If both answers are no, I stop.
And it works.
You may have noticed I didn't address the effectiveness of one of the app's four questions: Who are you with?
That one had the expected effect. I'm happier with friends. Much happier. Might seem obvious but if you spend as much time with books and blogs as I do, it's an important wake-up call.
Okay, that's enough alone time for today.
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