1. Humor is sexy
Humor is attractive to men and women — but not in the same way. The research shows women like men who make them laugh, and men like women who laugh at their jokes.
Why is humor sexy? Funny people are smart, and smart is sexy.
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So ladies can boost their attractiveness by chuckling a bit more.
And guys, you can garner more attention by learning how to make women laugh.
2. Being liked is sexy
Want to increase someone's interest in you? Might be worthwhile to make sure they find out you're interested in them.
This idea is affirmed by studying the effectiveness of "playing hard to get." What's the best way to play that game?
Establish that you're hard to get in general — but very enthusiastic about the person you're with.
3. What you talk about is sexy
Random conversation with someone you're interested in can be a bad idea. Why? What you talk about can matter — a lot.
Emotional, personal information exchange promotes powerful feelings of connection.
How effective is it? In under an hour it can create a connection stronger than a lifelong friendship.
(You can read the most effective things to discuss here.)
That said, don't get so nervous about your words that you can't speak…
When a woman is very attracted to a man, whether his pickup line is good or not doesn't matter at all.
4. Personality is sexy
Conscientiousness is predictive of a number of very important positive elements in life.
Agreeable, conscientious people make better spouses and parents — but disagreeable, non-conscientious people have more sex partners. The former invest in quality, and it seems like the latter make up the difference in, well, volume.
Looking to settle down? Check if that person has their ducks in a row, is organized, and easy to get along with. That's marriage material.
5. How they make you feel is sexy
Research shows we don't really fall in love with a person — we fall in love with how we feel when we're with them.
This is best demonstrated by the concept of emotional contagion: We're bad at telling what made us feel a certain way, but good about making associations.
Feeling excited, stimulated, and aroused is often associated with the people around us, even if they're not the cause.
This can be taken to extremes: having someone try to kill you can actually make you more attracted to them.
6. Love at first sight is sexy
There's still a lot about love and sex that can't be easily quantified. Studies show "love at first sight" is real.
Dr. Earl Naumann, author of Love at First Sight, interviewed and surveyed 1500 individuals of all races, religions, and backgrounds across America, and concluded that love at first sight is not a rare experience. What's more, Dr. Naumann theorizes that if you believe in love at first sight, there's a roughly 60 percent chance it will happen to you. Here's what led him to that conclusion.
- Nearly two thirds of the population believes in love at first sight.
- Of the believers, more than half have experienced it.
- Fifty-five percent of those who experienced it married the object of their affection.
- Three quarters of these married couples stayed married.
How can you increase the chance love at first sight happens to you? By believing in it.
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