Plan the calendar. As save-the-date cards pile up, “decide strategically” which weddings are a must. If a family member or good friend is getting married, “make your best effort.” For other acquaintances, “don’t make excuses.” Just RSVP promptly one way or the other.
Say no graciously. You don’t have to say yes if you’ve been asked to join the wedding party. It’s “perfectly acceptable to decline.” Just explain that you currently “have a lot on your plate” but would gladly pitch in elsewhere, say, “by doing a reading during the ceremony.”
Make a trip of it. Weddings are a “great excuse” to treat yourself to a mini-vacation. Splurge on your outfit and relax by the hotel pool. “It may be her big day, but it’s your summer.”