Want to raise successful kids? Teach them optimism, set them up to fail, says expert.


If you are a parent, you want your kids to be successful — whatever that means to you. There are libraries full of books on how to help steer your children toward a happy life, and one of those authors, Jennifer Prosek, sat down with The Wall Street Journal's Tanya Rivero to discuss some strategies in her book, Raising Can-Do Kids. The first tip: Teach optimism. "Framing the day as an adventure, being an optimist, rubs off on your children," Prosek said. "And if you want them to embrace failure, for instance, as entrepreneurs do, you have to have a certain level of optimism."
You have probably heard some of her other tips — encourage unstructured free-play time, creativity, and participation in the arts — but when it came back to failure, Rivero had a question: "Should we actively take the opportunity to set them up in ways that they will fail?" Prosek said yes, "we should look for, sort of, safety zones to take a risk. Let's not hurt our children," she added, "but, you know, if there's an opportunity to take a small risk, that is relatively low-risk, it's worthwhile." One strategy is to stop doing everything for your children — including small things like tying their shoes. "Listen, whether you're an adult or a child, that feeling of, 'I didn't think I could do it, and then I did it!' is a huge experience," she said, "and we take it out of our child's life every day." You can watch her ladle out her advice in the video below. Peter Weber
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Peter has worked as a news and culture writer and editor at The Week since the site's launch in 2008. He covers politics, world affairs, religion and cultural currents. His journalism career began as a copy editor at a financial newswire and has included editorial positions at The New York Times Magazine, Facts on File, and Oregon State University.
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