The 'self-serving' mom who gave dad the kids in the divorce

A woman ignites a new motherhood battle by conceding primary custody of her sons to her ex-husband... and saying it made her a better mom

Bloggers debate whether or not Rahna Reiko Rizzuot -- a writer and mother of two -- is selfish for admitting she never really wanted to be a mom.
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Rahna Reiko Rizzuto stirred up a spirited debate on parenting blogs this week with a personal account of her divorce, and her decision to give her ex-husband primary custody of their two young sons. Rizzuto, an author, says she "never wanted to be a mother" in the traditional sense of the role, so her latest choice benefited everyone. She lives down the block, sees her kids every day, and has gone from being an "overwhelmed" live-in mom to a "damn good" part-time mom. Did she do the right thing?

No, she did the selfish thing: Rizzuto is spouting a bunch of "self-serving excuses," says Lindsay Cross at Stilettos and Motherhood. She says her "part-time motherhood" is awesome — "I bet." Hanging out with your sons after school and being their buddy is bound to be way "more fun than actual parenting." But responsibility comes with the territory, and so does the hard work that Rizzuto apparently thinks is beneath her.

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